I remember that day so clearly: the day we found out we were having twins and that they were boys’. I was going to a midwife for my prenatal care and this particular midwifery only did one ultrasound your entire pregnancy and that was at 5 months. I had been extremely sick my first trimester, losing 15 pounds. Morning sickness is a form of torture, I’m sure of it. Everyone just thought that this was what my body did during pregnancy. No one, including me, ever thought that I was so sick because TWO babies were in my belly! So, as this day approached I was coming out of morning sickness and getting more and more excited! We had a boy name and a girl name picked out. We went in for the ultrasound, back when you still brought in a VHS tape for them to record the ultrasound for you and your reaction when they told you what you were having. So after setting everything up and turning everything on, the woman places the little instrument on my belly and immediately starts shutting everything off. I began to panic thinking something was wrong with the baby. She then looked at us and said “do either of you have twins in your family?” We both said, “No.” She replied, “well you do now!” I began crying, Jeremy began laughing and we left the office that day completely shocked! We now had four months to prepare for not one baby but two! Now, here we are in middle school. WOAH. Being a boy mom is fun, adventurous and often times gross. As a boy mom cleaning toilets is the worst and frequently makes me angry. How does one miss the giant toilet bowl when going ‘potty?’ Seriously…… And as a boy mom, we didn’t dress up Barbie’s, we never played with babydolls and I don’t get to share beauty secrets and makeup tips. It was Tonka trucks, Bob the Builder and GI Joe’s all the way. I wouldn’t have it any other way. I look at these two boys’ today and I get excited imagining what the Lord has in store for them! I am so excited to see the path that He has created for them. Yet, I’m not a fool to think that path will be without hiccups, struggles and missteps. It is starting off great though! Our greatest hope and prayer became a reality this past year when they both accepted Christ and are now followers of Him. There is no greater joy than to see your children surrender their lives and put their hope in Jesus Christ. Now it is our duty as parents to nurture that by living a life that exemplifies that and also teach our children the Word of God. We should also instill in them good manners and life skills, which includes discipline, to help them to know how to face this BIG crazy world! I do have to say, they could not have a more incredible model of a Godly man than their father. For that, I am exceedingly thankful. My hearts prayer is that they will follow the lead of their Daddy. But I will tell you this: the number one thing that I do as a Mom every single day for these two boys is pray for them: Every Single Day. While these specifics I am listing are daily written prayers in my journal, often times a situation arises that causes me to pray earnestly in a different direction for them whether it be a friendship, a specific middle school struggle, schoolwork etc. The point here is that one of our most important duties as parents is to pray unfailingly for our children.
Daily I pray over these three things:
- Their walk with the Lord: as they grow older that it matures and remains their focus.
- Protection and Strength from the Lord. Protect their hearts, eyes and ears from junk. But when (not if but when) they are faced with ‘junk’ that they will have the strength to turn away from whatever it is and speak Truth to whomever is sharing it.
- Future Spouse: I believe it is so very important to be praying now for whomever the Lord has chosen for each of them. She is out there, living her life right now. (Hey Girl! I’m praying for you beautiful!) So, I pray daily that the Lord is surrounding her with Godly examples in her life and that He is doing a work in her heart. I also pray for the relationship I will have with her. I hate that “mother-in-law” has such a negative association to it. I pray for a beautiful relationship with my future daughters-in-law.
One day I hope to show my boys my journal of prayers for them. Maybe on their wedding day, I don’t know? But, what I do know is that I will never cease in praying for them. The Lord has so graciously gifted us two precious boys to teach, nurture and love. I count that a privilege and want to treat it as such.
Sons are indeed a heritage from the Lord, children, a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the sons born in one’s youth. Happy is the man who has filled his quiver with them. Such men will never be put to shame when they speak with their enemies at the city gate. Psalm 127:3-5